By: An Angry Old Man
Do not go into the faculty room, was the advice given to me when I first started teaching. All they do in the faculty room is complain. What I realized is complaining is not only common among teachers, but you can find it in any organization. The truth is that it saps the energy out of you, prevents synergy and does not allow the organization to perform at its best.
So, what can we do to break the cycle of complaining? Here are a couple of tips.
1-Focus on gratitude. As mentioned in previous blogs if you do three good things each day it will boost your happiness. Also, when you are focused on being grateful this occupies your mind instead of negative thoughts.
2-Praise others. Instead of finding or pointing out what is wrong about things try to find the positive. Look for things that people around you are doing well and praise them. What has been found is that work places that are extremely successful have a 3-1 ratio. That is three positive statements for every negative statement.
3-Let go. I try to practice forgiveness each night and let go of the things that bothered me during the day. What truly amazes me about this exercise is that I can feel the tension leave my body which allows me to focus on things that I can control.
4-Meditate. Scientific research shows that meditation gives you a boost of energy and promotes health. So, when things are getting you down or you start to feel like complaining, take a moment for yourself.
Habits are very hard to break. I challenge you to pick one of these things and implement them every time you are about to complain. It will help you live a happier and more productive life.
Originally appeared here: https://psychologyeconomics.blogspot.com/2019/05/stop-complaining.html